Resources
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose
You did not choose the blueprint. But you have been building from it. This mini-workbook explores how childhood, attachment, and generational patterns shape the way you love and helps you start building something different. Coming soon to Amazon.
The Self-Care Hierarchy Workbook
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose
You have followed all the accounts. Saved all the posts. Bought the candles. And still feel like something is missing. This workbook goes deeper through five levels of self-care rooted in clinical practice, not aesthetic. Coming September 2026.
The Self-Care Hierarchy — The Book
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose
The Self-Care Hierarchy — The Book
Coming Winter 2026. The full framework for everyone who has tried everything and still feels stuck. Get on the waitlist to be the first to know.
My Doctoral Research
PhD in Counseling Education & Supervision
My dissertation, Childhood Labels, Adult Identities: Exploring Self-Worth, explored how the Good Girl label in childhood can evolve into the Strong Black Woman schema in adulthood, particularly within Black mother-daughter relationships.
Through qualitative interviews with Black women across generations, my research found that many Black women internalized identities rooted in perfectionism, emotional suppression, caregiving, hyper-independence, and external validation long before adulthood. Identity is often shaped not only through direct messages from caregivers, but through observation, modeling, and inherited survival strategies. Many participants described learning to associate love, worthiness, and safety with being good, responsible, emotionally controlled, and self-sacrificing.
A major finding was that many coping mechanisms commonly praised in Black women including emotional suppression, perfectionism, and hyper-independence were often rooted in survival rather than authentic self-definition. Participants struggled to separate who they truly were from the roles they had been conditioned to perform.
My research also highlighted the importance of breaking intergenerational cycles. Participants described intentionally redefining strength, prioritizing emotional expression, setting boundaries, engaging in therapy, and teaching future generations that self-worth should not be dependent upon perfection, silence, or self-sacrifice.
This work contributes to broader conversations surrounding Black women's identity development, self-concept, emotional wellness, intergenerational healing, and the psychological impact of labeling within family systems. I am currently working on making this research accessible through three books.
A central finding of this research: that self-worth is often conditional, shaped by what we were told we had to be in order to be loved became the foundation for the Conditional Worth Model, a framework I am currently developing to help individuals identify and challenge inherited conditions of worth.
New Workbook Available
The Relationship Blueprint We Didn't Choose is here. A therapeutic mini workbook on childhood experiences, generational patterns, and adult attachment.